A rejection about your body can feel like a judgement on your whole value, especially when several people say similar things.
In short
You cannot force attraction, but you also do not need to accept humiliation. Look after your health for the right reasons, present yourself honestly and do not turn every rejection into proof that nobody will want you. A person can have a preference without speaking cruelly or treating your body as your entire identity.
What Islam gives us here
Qur'an 49:13 teaches that honour before Allah is based on taqwa rather than appearance or status.
Islam teaches dignity and good treatment even when a marriage proposal does not proceed.
Marriage apps and introductions can reduce people to a few photos. That can make one feature feel much more important than character, humour, warmth, deen and how someone actually makes another person feel.
Health and worth are different questions
If you want to improve your health, do it with a sensible plan. Do not punish your body because strangers made comments about it.
Do not accept disrespect because you feel lucky someone is interested
A potential spouse who constantly criticises your weight may be showing you what marriage with them could feel like.
What you can do now
Separate health goals from marriage panic.
Use honest current photos for introductions.
Do not tolerate degrading comments about your body.
Keep your standards around deen, character and kindness.
Questions people usually ask next
Should I lose weight before looking for marriage?
You can work on health at any time, but you do not need to put your whole life on hold until you reach a perfect number.
What if people keep saying attraction matters?
Attraction does matter. That does not make cruelty or humiliation acceptable.
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