Ask whether it is concern, preference or control
A health concern raised once with care is different from daily comments about weight, skin, hair or clothes.
Do not agree to impossible promises
Bodies change with age, pregnancy, illness, stress and normal life. If the person's affection seems tied to a fixed body standard, ask yourself what that means long term.
Watch how they react when you say the comments hurt
A caring person may apologise and adjust. Someone who mocks your feelings or says you should be grateful for honesty is giving you useful information.
What you can do now
- Tell them clearly which comments are hurting you.
- Ask what they genuinely expect after marriage.
- Do not agree to unsafe diets, procedures or body changes to keep the proposal.
- Pause the match if the pattern becomes degrading or controlling.
Questions people usually ask next
Is it wrong for them to care about attraction?
No. Attraction matters. The issue is how preferences are expressed and whether one person is being pressured or humiliated.
What if they say they are only trying to help me?
Help should still respect your dignity. Repeated unwanted criticism is not automatically kind because it is labelled concern.