Being unable to provide basic responsibilities is a real concern. Not owning a house or earning a prestige salary is a different standard.
In short
Ask what 'not wealthy enough' actually means. If the man cannot meet basic responsibilities, has unstable behaviour around money or hides serious debt, the concern may be genuine. If the objection is mainly status, job title, house ownership or matching another family's lifestyle, those expectations should be examined rather than treated as automatic Islamic requirements.
What Islam gives us here
Qur'an 24:32 warns against making poverty an automatic barrier to marriage.
Qur'an 65:7 teaches that spending is according to a person's means.
What does he earn? What are his debts? Where would the couple live? What are the monthly costs?
A real financial conversation is more useful than labels like rich, poor or not established.
Status can hide inside financial language
Sometimes a family says 'he cannot provide' when what they mean is 'his profession is not impressive enough'. Those are not the same concern.
Do not ignore genuine instability
Low income can be manageable. Gambling, hidden debt, refusing to work or expecting the wife's family to fund everything are different issues.
What you can do now
Ask your wali to describe the financial concern specifically.
Prepare a real first-year budget.
Separate basic provision from social-status expectations.
Seek qualified scholar review if a suitable proposal is repeatedly blocked on disputed grounds.
Questions people usually ask next
Does a man need a high salary to marry?
No. He does need to take his responsibilities seriously and be honest about what life will look like.
Can money be a valid reason to refuse?
It can be relevant where basic responsibilities are unrealistic. The question is whether the concern is genuine capacity or an inflated family standard.
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