Anger keeps people watching
Balanced advice is less addictive than outrage. A clip saying 'some people behave badly' gets less attention than 'all men are like this' or 'all women are like that'.
If your feed is making you more suspicious, angry and cynical every week, that is useful information about the feed.
Real people are not internet categories
A potential spouse should be judged by their deen, character, behaviour and compatibility, not by a stereotype built from strangers online.
Ask real questions. Watch real behaviour. Do not make someone defend the worst things another man or woman has done on the internet.
Do not import contempt into a marriage
A marriage cannot feel safe if both people constantly speak about the other sex with disgust. You can discuss rights and responsibilities without turning the relationship into a power contest.
What you can do now
- Mute or unfollow accounts that leave you angry at the other sex.
- Notice which beliefs come from people you actually know and which came from videos.
- Judge potential spouses individually.
- Choose teachers and advisers who speak about marriage with evidence and balance, not rage.
Questions people usually ask next
But some of the online points are true. Should I ignore them?
No. A real concern can still be discussed. The problem is turning examples of bad behaviour into a rule about every man or every woman.
How do I know if content is harming me?
If it leaves you more suspicious, contemptuous, hopeless or obsessed without helping you make better decisions, step back and reassess what you are consuming.